What to Perceive and What NOT to Perceive? That is the question!!

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One very frank lesson I learned the first week of my very first job, as a cashier at WaWa, was that you don’t poop where you work.  Now, I know that sounds strange.  It was spewed at me in a much different, kind of vulgar manner from a disgruntled co-worker who was venting, which I am sure you all can imagine.  We all have probably heard this cliché several times before.

I had to put this cliché in a whole new light last night for a close relative of mine.

Perception.

That’s the name of the game people.  We often think we are putting out one kind of vibe, while the person on the receiving end is perceiving your message quite differently.  Before the proverbial line gets drawn in the sand, here’s a little something to ponder on about perception.

In talking to my family member, he was gloriously detailing his relationship escapades.  How he talked to this one girl and she gave him her number, but later he got a number from this other girl, but yet in still he likes this other girl… But he just wants to be friends with all of them.  Yea, ok. (chuckle chuckle at how dumb he must think I am!)

So, I had no choice but to stop him in his tracks.  My spidey senses were tingling on a seizure type level at the impending teaching moment.  Listening to him, he was so caught up in how he perceived the situation, that he never really stopped to think of how those other girls may perceive his actions.

I dared to ask him, “What happens if they find out about each other, especially if they work together?”  The response was a typical one.  “I’m just being friendly, just want to hang out.”  I’m truly stepping out on a very thin limb here, but I don’t think women were built to function like that.  To just ‘hang out’ with no chance of commitment.  I know plenty of women who say they can, but they follow the same symptoms I expressed to my family member.

Even as friends, if there is even an inkling of admiration or desire there, perception of the situation can be come very cloudy.  The idea is that you’re just friends, but most women I know, go home and almost meditate on the time that was spent with the ‘friend’.  What he was wearing, his gestures, his flirtations (was he really flirting or just being nice?), how he looked at you, every word he says.  We analyze it all. 

I wanted to warn him, actually, educate him, to think of both sides of the fence.  Most often, we will put our own interests at the forefront, but I am hoping with this conversation, that he will start to think of the other person as well.  How they may read into or perceive his words and actions. More importantly, we have to be concerned with how God views our actions.  He is the one who truly knows the intent behind our actions.

This is a concept that I think we all could reflect on in our own lives.  Often times, we do things to pursue our own purposes and passions, but how often do we stop and think about how God is viewing our words and actions?  Do you ever think about how the other person may perceive you, or are you mainly focused on your own particular need?

In my head, honestly, all I could see was this situation going totally wrong and blowing up in his face. Or worse yet, it blows up in the girls faces…and their hearts.  God forbid if these girls actually have intimate feelings for him, and find out that he is spending time with her and the other girls.  I have seen it so many times before, where situations like that end up causing a virtual war between women, often unbeknownst to the male in between. 

Some men could care less, some might even enjoy that.  I would never want to breed that mentality into the hearts and souls of the men in my family.  If anything, I’m fighting to kill that thought at the door.

So I leave you with this last thought.  In a training I attended today, ironically, the agenda included a conversation about perception amongst office staff.  The trainer concluded the whole topic by saying, “The other persons perception of your actions is the true reality.”

Think of the verse listed above when you speak to others. See past what man sees and try to look at the situation through His eyes, then move forward.

Be blessed friends!

Move!!! Get out the way!!

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I just love my best friends!!

Though we don’t get to talk as much as either of us wishes, it’s always a great conversation.  We talked, well texted, this morning about a situation I’m going through.  She is always a great source of real tough love and great encouragement.  I saw this picture on Facebook a few minutes ago, thought of our conversation and wanted to share with you all.

One of my best friends politely reminded me today that we all go through things in life. I learned from speaking to her that it’s about perspective.

We are so quick to try to assign blame and point fingers. But…It’s not about assigning fault and more so about realizing how our actions affect the people around us.  It made me realize, before I can truly move forward with my passion and purpose, I must get out of my own way.

After more girl talk, and some quiet reflection afterwards, I realize the steps I need to take to remove my self-induced roadblock.  And I understand that I may have to move the roadblock brick by brick, but it must be removed.

It won’t be easy friends.  But be encouraged.  Don’t let your thoughts or opinions, experiences or guilt, bind you as a roadblock to securing your blessings and accomplishing God’s purpose for your life.

You can make it!!!

At the Close of Business

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A little anecdote of humor thanks to the folks over at the awesome world of Bitstrips. I just love this app!!

For those who don’t know, Bitstrips is an application for your phone or tablet where you can turn yourself into a cartoon character and throw yourself into a comic strip. Cool right?

Isn’t this how we all wished we could leave work?!?!?

Have a great evening friends!! And go download that app!

Respect the Order

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Well, here’s another one. Another rainy, cloudy day on the east coast. Dreary days tend to go one of two ways around me: either extremely productive or extremely UN-productive.  Today, I’m feeling the latter of the two.

When I grudgingly opened my email this morning, my daily inspirational message had the above captioned verse attached.  I admit, I had to really stop and think, as the message discussed doing things in God’s order, lest our progress will be hindered or completely derailed. I began to wonder, Am I doing something out of order, maybe moving too fast?

I let those questions slip to the back of my mind along with my first sip of coffee.  I checked my next email account to find a different daily devotional message. (When possible, I absorb inspiration from everywhere and send it anywhere my eyes may travel during the day!)

This one, from Diana Hobbs over at http://empoweringeverydaywomen.com, is aptly titled ‘God is Ordering Your Steps’. (Anyone else see the irony, or divine influence, going on here? :-)) Before I could even finish reading the article, my heart was beaming.  I knew for certain what this article was addressing in my life… jumping ahead.

I think it is normal for most humans to try to spring forward, so to speak, our thoughts about what our future should be according to our experiences and mindset.  Who doesn’t enjoy daydreaming about fully living out our life’s purpose and the rewards that will undoubtedly follow suite, right? I feel like this message was God saying, “Slow down E.”

Yesterday I posted about extending your territory, and how true change in mindset doesn’t happen overnight. Let’s say this is the next wellspring from that statement.  I’m so grateful that with God, it’s not all or nothing. I don’t believe that God’s heavenly office has a mandatory 24-hr turnaround period. Meaning, He understands that there is a process to change.

In fact, according to this verse, He mandates a process!

Much like coal being converted to a diamond, some things in US must be refined before we are truly at our peak, and this can only be accomplished through God’s perfect planning and timing, with a pinch of our faith as fuel. (Remember that lil ole mustard seed?)

Have faith today, that His timing is beyond perfect, and you don’t have to force the issue or the change.  Remain diligent, seeking Him and the Word. Remain faithful, because He’s done it for you before. Remain hopeful, because He knows what He has planned for your future, and it’s ALL good, so you need not worry!!

Have a great day friends!

Extend Your Territory

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I know…Wow…right??

This is by far my favorite yoga teacher, Laura Sykora from http://twofitmoms.com. She posts absolutely beautiful pictures and amazing poses on Instagram (@laurasykora).  And the coolest part is she poses with her ‘minis’, her son and daughter!

Go check her out and hit that Follow button! You will not be disappointed!

The reason I wanted to use this picture was to visually demonstrate the idea of thinking past your borders.  When I first saw this picture, I was like…I will never be able to achieve that!!! Good Lord, look at her leg in the air!! 😱

But as with most things in life, true change will not come overnight.  And change will never work unless our mindset changes first. A change in mindset most often requires us to think outside the box and challenge our preconceived ideals.

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So now I don’t say “That’s not happening!” Instead I try to think, “When I get this pose down, I’m going to…”. And I challenge each of you to do the same.

What do you have on the horizon that you keep thinking you can’t do? I challenge you to extend your territory to find a way to realize your extraordinary!! And if you feel comfortable, please comment and share your challenge and your plan!;)

Plan B Aftermath: We Must Talk To Our Daughters About Sex

Plan B Aftermath: We Must Talk To Our Daughters About Sex.

I recently signed up to recieve daily inspirations from a website I stumbled upon called  www.empoweringeverydaywomen.com.  The websites founder, Dianna Hobbs, is a great source for inspiration and reflection.

The recent ruling regarding Plan B is a great concern for me, being the mother of a soon to be 14 year old daughter.  Having teenagers is a journey beyond any other, but with this decision coming down, our jobs have parents have become even more difficult than before. 

I have been in daily prayer as to guidance about how to talk to and be patient with my maturing daughter.  I felt like God answered my prayer, and since it helped me so much, I wanted to share this and hope that it will bless others as well.

Please go check out the website.  I’m sure you’ll be inspired as well. 

And leave me some feedback about your feelings about the recent decision regarding Plan B, and any tips on how you handle or approach teaching moments with your children.

ttyl all,

Selah ;)

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